2 reasons why I have a love-hate relationship with relaxers!

I have a love-hate relationship with relaxers. I just had one done two weeks ago and I have mixed feelings about it.
I’ll tell you why:

Reason 1. Thinning strands:

I am happy with the state of my ‘texlaxed’ hair now: I already have low to moderate density hair strands which are fine in diameter and I don’t want my hair to become any thinner.

I have this feeling that relaxers can damage the hair follicles and over time, lead to thinner hair strands coming out of the scalp. To combat this, I try to base my scalp with layers of Jamaican Black castor oil and Vaseline.

I try to ensure that the relaxer is only applied to the new growth although it is inevitable that it still touches the previously relaxed hair. In addition, while rinsing off the relaxer, the relaxer run-off touches the previously relaxed hair and can also cause damage and thinning hair strands. I try to combat this by applying conditioner to my hair prior to applying the relaxer. Some relaxed hair bloggers advocate using Roux Porosity Control Conditioner and silk amino acids to reduce damage caused by this run-off. I also try to combat hair damage by using a protein conditioner after rinsing off the relaxer. This helps to strengthen the hair and restore some of its protein content.

Reason 2: Shampooing my hair

I have to shampoo my hair several times to get the relaxer out. I HATE shampooing my hair because it always leaves my hair feeling dry. That’s why I now make my own cleansing conditioner. After my last relaxer day, it got me wondering if there was a conditioner that could do the job of neutralising the relaxer…Then I REMEMBERED a post Nadege had done on her Relaxed Hair Health blog where she mentioned the Linange shea butter relaxer and its neutralising conditioner. You can read her post HERE.


I’ve placed a personal order for the Linange neutralising conditioner in anticipation of my next relaxer day. I can’t wait for it to get here!

I am currently using Activilong Relaxer Kit (Mild). Although I am able to use it to successfully ‘under process’ (texlax) my hair, my hair always feels very hard after using it. So, I also decided to buy the Linange No-Lye Shea Butter Relaxer to go with the conditioner. The Linange relaxer also has a lye version too but I prefer no-lye relaxers.

In my next post, I’ll give you guys my step-by-step relaxer day process.

Much love!

About the author
Dr Fomsky

Nigerian-born Dr Fomsky is a God-lover, a wife, a mom of three, a medical doctor by day. Plus she owns a Nigerian-based online hair product store called Sizzelle.
Dr Fomsky is very passionate about hair, skin and weight management. Since she's had her babies, she's been struggling to keep her weight and her tummy down!
At night, she likes to read books, write blog posts and leave comments on other blogs. She lives in Alberta, Canada and is also the author of Solving your relaxed hair breakage book .
LAST RELAXER DAY: December 15th, 2016
BIG CHOP: January 14th, 2017
Natural Hair, Unknown Porosity, Fine Hair strands, Low to Moderate Density

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7 Comments to 2 reasons why I have a love-hate relationship with relaxers!

  1. Olivia says:

    I just used the linange shea relaxer (lye) to texlax my hair for the first time 6 weeks ago (prior to that I used ors lye with decent results). I LOVED the linange, it left my hair feeling really strong yet soft if that makes sense. I also used the neutralizing conditioner which I loved. I hope to get similar results in the future. Would love your thoughts after using them. Good luck 🙂

  2. I know the feeling, Dr. Fomsky. Great post by the way 🙂
    U can also check out my new blog hairlengthreality.blogspot.com

  3. Thanks sooo much Dr. Fomsky 🙂

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